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20 Ways to make a Good marriage GREAT!

by Richard W. Linford

  1. Night & Morning prayer:  thanks, ask for help, worship
  2. Weekly planning meeting:  calendar, talk over needs & problems, decide priorities
  3. Daily phone call or personal conversation:  I love you, touch base, show care
  4. Weekly Date  (here's my post about date night ideas!)
  5. Patience regardless of:  missed meals, tardiness, forgotten favors, thoughtless remarks, impatience
  6. Daily service:  house or yard work, fix a favorite meal
  7. A budget:  set financial goals, tie down income & expenses
  8. Listening:  what is said and what is meant
  9. Regular Church Attendance
  10. Daily scripture reading:  learn the gospel, receive inspiration to become more like Jesus
  11. Working together:  painting, car wash, teaching a class
  12. Forgiving each other:  1st to make peace, always learning from each other
  13. Courtesies:  Please & Thank you, no interrupting, no belittling
  14. Soft & kind words:  of tenderness, compassion, empathy
  15. Learning together:  reading to each other, taking a class, discussing ideas
  16. Respecting:  opinions, ideas, privacy
  17. Supporting your spouses':  church calling & righteous goals
  18. Caring for Spouses family:  enjoying company, praying, serving, overlooking differences
  19. Occasional gifts:  note, time, self, needed item
  20. Loving with all of your heart
Some of these tips are a daily challenge for me to fulfill (example:  patience, listening, soft words, forgiving, daily service) because I am human and imperfect.  Sometimes I let life get in the way.  Constantly bombarded with tasks that need to get accomplished at work and at home I sometimes forget to take a step back and enjoy the process.

My husband and I are polar opposites in a lot of ways (translation:  life at our house is never boring!) and we were raised very differently so we seem to clash a lot!  We have learned a ton about each other these last couple of years, but have learned the hard way through trial and error or trial by error.  The important idea here is that we are learning.  We're not perfect but we strive to be better and I think this list has some good insight into what a healthy marriage looks like.


  1. Wow..such great wisdom you have passed on. I got married a year and a half ago. Loving it till now, with its ups and downs..will be sharing this with the hubby!

    1. Thanks Eva! It's always good to be reminded. We've been married for 4 1/2 yrs and don't have it all together. I think it's a journey we get to go through with our husbands. The good, the bad, and the ugly.


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